the joni blog • 17th April 2024

Beneath the Surface: Menstruation, Body Dysmorphia, and Inner Healing

Over the years I have learned to love my cyclical nature. While I was taught from pubescence that having a period is a hassle, and perhaps the worst part of being a person with a uterus, I have spent many years of my adult life working to develop a loving, compassionate relationship with my menstrual cycle. Most of the time, now, I actually really love feeling connected to my cycle and the many unique, yet unifying, experiences it brings me, both in connection to my own bo

Frenchie • 21st February 2024

Sex Toys And Relationships: Shopping Together

Once you’ve opened the floor to discuss how integrating new toys and products may feel for all partners involved, it can be a really connective next step to actually go shopping for sex toys together. Sometimes, it can be nice to keep things casual. Sex toy shopping can be as normalised as going to the grocery store together, where planning our next sexual experiences is made as casual as planning our next meal and choosing out all of the ingredients. However, it can also be nice to make a date

Momotaro Apotheca • 9th February 2024

How To Talk Dirty: A Beginners Guide

Dirty talking is one of those funny things that many of us can usually access in a silly, joking way, but when it comes to implementing it when we’re actually trying to be sexy, we often have quite a hard time.

In the same way that it is quite common to dislike hearing a recording of our own voice, we struggle to take ourselves seriously when we try to muster up the courage to say those sexy things we have living in our heads, out loud.

Often, when it comes to dirty talking, our biggest fear i

Bonjibon • 2nd February 2024

Beginner’s Guide to Cock Rings For All Bodies

With a name like “cock ring,” you can pretty much guess what these little toys are designed for, and you wouldn’t be wrong. Cock rings may be created for use on a cock, but would you believe me if I say you really don’t need a cock to enjoy them?

If you ask me, cock rings are one of the most diverse sex toys on the market. They come in all different shapes, sizes, and functionalities, and they really can be used on all bodies, for all different types of sex.

Often when things are so literally

Frenchie • 24th January 2024

Sex Toys And Relationships: How To Initiate The Conversation

If you’ve never explored different pleasure products with a partner, it can feel quite difficult to introduce them into this part of your sex life for many reasons.

The sex toys we choose directly correlate to our sexual desires, interests, fantasies, kinks, and many other access points to our unique pleasure. They are truly so personal, so disclosing the products we like or are curious about to our partner(s) can feel quite vulnerable. Giving someone this window into our sexual bodies and who

Momotaro Apotheca • 5th January 2024

On Making Mornings Sacred: How To Intentionally Stop Scrolling And Ritualize The Mundane

We all have some form of morning routine, whether intentional or unintentionally.

Some of us start our day by hitting snooze 17 times and letting out a couple of groans before planting our feet on the floor. Maybe you’re a roll out of bed, throw on some clothes, and head straight to work all within 15 minutes type of person, and if it works for you then hey, it works. That quick to be up and out the door lifestyle has never been for me.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve loved having lots of

Bonjibon • 30th November 2023

Navigating Distance: The Big Learnings of the LDR

I am no stranger to an LDR (long distance relationship).

Over the years, based on various unique circumstances as well as being someone who has spent the majority of my 20’s moving around quite a bit, I have found myself in long distance relationships far more often than I would have chosen.

You meet someone, and then you have to follow-through with a commitment to something else, or they move, or you never lived in the same place to begin with, or any other infinite number of possibilities ca

huha underwear • 11th November 2023

When the Pussy Says No: On Vaginismus, Tension & Trauma

Quite often, when anything doesn’t work the way we want it to in relation to sex and our bodies, the first response we feel is an enormous amount of shame.

Whether it’s with a partner, solo, or even with a doctor, if there’s something we feel is unusual going on with our sexual body; our genitals and our ability to have the sex we feel we should be able to have, we immediately feel as though we are broken, in a different way than we do with any other part of our body.

If we sprain an ankle or

Momotaro Apotheca • 29th September 2023

Sleepy Can Be Sexy: Sex Positions for Low Energy Days

It’s getting to be that time of year when everything feels like it slows down a little, including our bodies.

As the weather gets colder and the days get shorter, we often feel the high energy of high summer trickling away from us, to be replaced by slower, softer days of curling inward and nesting for winter to come.

While for many of us, we may feel like our most sexy selves during the spring and summer, when layers start to come off and energy rises all around us (in the same way that our f

Momotaro Apotheca • 14th September 2023

Sharing is Caring: A Guide to Mutual Masturbation

It is quite common to feel a large gap between the pleasure we experience during sex with ourselves and the pleasure we experience during sex with others.

If we have developed a masturbation practice with ourselves at any point in our lives, no matter what that looks like, it is likely that we have gotten to know our own pleasure in an intimate way. Simply put, if you have spent time connecting to, and developing, your sexual relationship with yourself, it is likely that you know how to make yo

huha underwear • 31st August 2023

Your Vaginal Discharge Is A Vital Sign!

Who taught you that vaginal discharge was gross?

No really, think back for a moment, to those tender pubescent years when your body was changing, and you started to notice new, unknown substances in your underwear every now and then. Where did the shame come from?

I remember girls in middle school sharing clothes amongst one another, and then making fun of each other after seeing “the white stuff” in the crotch of someone’s yoga pants. That girl became the “dirty girl” and no one would share c

Jems • 30th August 2023

101: Libido Discrepancy

How to Navigate Differing Libidos In Relationships By Taylor Neal

Libido discrepancy—i.e. a difference in sexual desire or drive between partners—can be one of the most challenging things to navigate in romantic and/or sexual relationships, and yet, in almost every partnership we come into, libido discrepancy will be present in some way.

Whether it be situational (one partner simply not feeling it in that moment, thay day, or for a period of time) or ongoing (you and your partner(s) have diffe

Bonjibon • 15th August 2023

Let’s Talk Switching: Why I Can’t Always “Get There”

I’ve always identified as a sub.

Even from before I started having sex, I remember being turned on by submissiveness - or the idea of submissiveness, perhaps. I was, and still am, seduced by the idea of giving my body over to someone I trust. I find such tenderness in power play.

I remember watching my first porn, before I even knew what to search for, and always finding myself watching some sort of bondage, loving the idea of receiving orders and commands, of being a good little slut for my d

SaltyWorld • 5th June 2023

On Trauma and Mirrors: Confronting Our Reflections

"If you find yourself continuously triggered and in pain each time you look in the mirror, here’s a very simple suggestion: remove the mirrors."

Growing up as a dancer, I spent copious amounts of time in spaces with floor to ceiling mirrors lining the walls on a daily basis, surrounded by my peers, forced to be in continuous confrontation with my reflection through the tender days of adolescence and pubescent hormonal influx.

Born and raised as a girl, it is impossible to spend this much time

huha underwear • 5th June 2023

The “Feminine Hygiene” Fallacy

I’m pretty sure it’s safe to say that any of us living in the Western, English-speaking, colonized world has heard, at one point or another, the term “feminine hygiene” in some public setting.

Perhaps this is the name of an aisle in your local drugstore, perhaps it is a notice on a toilet telling you what not to flush, perhaps it is on the box of tampons you just bought or in a commercial for menstrual products. This term has become so commonplace to us that it is used widely and very often, wi

Loose Lips Magazine • 9th May 2023

The Vulvar Revolution and The Gendering of Pleasure

It is so exciting to be able to say that we are currently in a time where I can open my Instagram feed and see an abundance of rich conversation on sexuality.

As a sexuality writer, podcaster, multidisciplinary artist and a frontline sexual assault response worker, I want to start this conversation off by stating that, while all of my work centralizes on an exploration of sexuality and sexual wellness advocacy, I am buoyed by generations of femmes and queer communities before me who tirelessly

Jems • 27th January 2023

Uncut : My Hour-Long Orgasm

It is very common during sex, especially hetero sex, that once one or both parties cum the sex is mutually understood to be over.

Pat on the back, wipe the hands, job well done, see ya later.

How often then does our pleasure actually get limited by our orgasm?

Sensuality and sexual wellness enthusiast that I am, I find it beautiful to see the growing normalization of discussion around pleasure-based sex – that is, sex that is not fixated on specific outcomes, like the orgasm, and is instead f

Bonjibon • 24th August 2022

Back to the Basics: Consent is Embodied

What I’ve noticed across sexuality discourse/pleasure-focused media, and equally throughout general society and conversation, is that our world is becoming a much more sex positive place in many ways, and it’s beautiful to see this sexual renaissance happening in real time, to witness the unfurling of stigmatized pleasure and sexualities, to watch as humans of all identities begin to speak out on their experiences and strive toward building a more sexually well and educated culture. It truly is

Jems • 2nd August 2022

Uncut : Self-Advocacy is Sexy

I'm 25. I've been sexually active for over ten years now and over this period my sexuality has fluctuated and changed almost as many times as my hairstyle. However, one thing remains certain; a decade into my sexual journey, I can assure you that if I had known much earlier that my role didn't always have to be the pleaser and the receiver, my sexual history would look a lot different.

I was born and raised very much a "girl." When I first became sexually active, I was an intimidated, shy, and

The Freque • 22nd July 2022

Expanding Our Concept of Orgasm

The term and concept of energetic sexuality as a whole has been creating quite a buzz throughout sexuality and wellness conversation in recent years, as spiritual and tantric erotic practices increasingly claim their rightful space in western contemporary sexuality discourse.

This was only reaffirmed by the spotlight on Miss Jaiya’s work with Erotic Blueprints on the 2021 Netflix series, Love, Sex & Goop, but it is important to acknowledge that practices in energetic sexuality and energetic org

Bonjibon • 20th May 2022

How Dating Apps Uncovered my Demisexuality

I have always thought of myself as quite an allosexual, sexual in general, human.

I love sex, and I love experiencing and creating new sexual experiences with a wide variety of different partners. I love the exploration, the deepening of my relationship to my own body as well as my ability to relate to, and understand, the bodies and experiences of others through sex, and this had lead me through a rather diverse, emotional sexual development.

As a sexually relational being, I identify as poly

Bonjibon • 18th March 2022

Connecting Without Sexing: Notes on Non-Sexual Partnered Intimacy

Recently I have been inspired to get creative with ways to explore pleasure and intimacy between one’s self and their partner, outside of traditional views on what sex should be and look like.

Personally, this began as an exploration of intimacy practices for during my bleed.

For many, period sex can be quite enjoyable and even preferred due to the heightened sensation, lubrication and enhanced spiritual and intuitive connection inherent in the sex that can be experienced if one or all partner

The Freque • 6th February 2022

Surrendering To The Body Through Womb Wisdom

It is a very common experience to be faced with scenarios or decisions in life and to think to ourselves, “my gut instinct is…” or “my mind is telling me this but in my gut I feel this.” We are all quite familiar with this concept of “gut instinct,” but how often do we actually stop to consider what this really means? And why is it often so challenging to listen and follow what is coming from this place we refer to as “our gut” rather than abiding by the law of our minds?

Simply put, we struggl

Bonjibon • 18th January 2022

Masturbation as Stress Relief: Making Love to Myself

Honestly, sometimes it’s not even about the orgasm, it’s about offering yourself a chance to be out of your head and fully in your body, even just for a moment.

I know it sounds redundant. Talk and writing on sensuality and slowing down have seemed to be popping up all over social media feeds and blogs amongst the wellness community quite often these days. We are all aware of our societal need to slow down and tune in and we think we have it figured out. But let me tell you, I straight up preac